So I said, "I sure hope that you are not IMing OW because that would be really disrespectful."
He YELLS back, "I'm on the damn internet. Then mumbles, shut the F up. I can't stand you." I almost lost it. Any advice on how to handle it? I really don't want to just ignore, but he's not going to continue to speak to me that way. After what he's done, he's speaking to ME like that?
Set a boundary and be prepared to enforce it.
When you XXXXX, I feel YYYYYY. I want ZZZZZZ. If you continue to XXXXX, I will QQQQQQQ. Then do it.
Look up Coach's excellent thread on boundaries.
SpinFree
well, at this point it isn't even about feelings; he absolutely should not speak to you like that in front of your child! so I'd skip "I feel YYYYY" and go right to "when you speak to me like that in front of DD, it's disrespectful and harmful for hter to hear. I want ZZZZZ (for it to stop, I imagine); if you continue to XXXXX, I will QQQQQ."
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
