New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Michelle,

You are right about the school. It did cross my mind as well that she just doesn't want me to be there or meet the teachers, or watch my S13 at football practice. Maybe she told them all about what I USED TO BE, which justifies why I am not around. But then, it would destroy her storyline if I show up and everyone sees the NEW ME. Then again, I may be completely wrong.

In any case I really worked hard at regaining trust and doing what she's asked me to do when I'm with the kids: not buy them too many things, giving their meds regularly, etc. I did exactly that. And each time the boys wanted me to buy them something, I'd have them call my W first and ask her if that is OK. That way my W knows I'm not trying to pull a fast one on her.

I noticed my W also worked hard at not saying'No" right away. She pauses, probably rethinks the question and says "yes". Usually it's been no, no, and no. But not this time. I requested more time, I got it. So that's been surprising, to say the least. I think I'll contact a bit more, just to try it out. A phone call here, an email there. See what happens.

JR