I hear your frustration. IMO your H gets easily bored, and you and he need to learn how to live together again. Things were great when he first returned, vacations, etc. He wants that every day of life, and that's not reality. Well, maybe if he worked at Disneyland or something, but life isn't just all fun stuff.

Keep mixing it up.

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.