So... It's been going pretty well the past couple weeks or whatever.

It's almost like we are just becoming really good friends again. We text each other basically all day everyday off and on. Just chit chat... Jokes... That kinda stuff. We spent all of Labor day weekend together. We went to the movies (Scott Pilgrim was awesome!) we made dinner, we got really drunk together and hung out and had a great time just talking and joking around and listening to music all drunk.

I think the best part though, and this goes back to issues we had that ruined our marriage, was the BBQ we went to on Labor Day.

So, my wife's biggest problem with me back when things were bad between us, was my complete disinterest in her life outside of our marriage. I can look back on it now and see what a jerk I was.

She has this whole group of friends, who she loves and always wanted me to meet and hang out with, and I basically just had no interest in ever even meeting these people. She would invite me out, and I would pretty much tell her no, and she would go alone.

I used to be incredibly anti social, and I decided back months and months ago that that was something I really disliked about myself, and I forced myself to become a more socially open person. Meeting new people, going places I usually wouldn't go and so on. Of course my wife didn't know this about me, because, well, she hasn't been around.

So, anywhoo... She invited me to this BBQ...

The old me would have first asked where it was, and if there was parking, and complained about parking in the city. The old me then would have asked who was going to be there, then complained about knowing anyone.

The old me would have then sat in a corner at the BBQ and not talked to anyone, which, in the old days made my wife very uncomfortable, to the point that she told me she felt like every time we went out she had to "babysit me" to make sure I wasnt miserable.

The new me, however... Just said "Yeah, a BBQ sounds fun".

We went, I knew nobody there, but was very outgoing, very friendly, played games, joked, the whole 9 yards.

Her friends were happy to finally meet me, and even more happy when it turned out that I'm a pretty damn cool guy.

I got a text from my wife today telling me how she is having so much fun hanging out with me.



So yeah... Thats the update.

Things are going really well... Reading some of the other threads here in piecing make me worried that the wheels are gonna fall off at any moment, but I'm not really seeing that... Maybe her and I are lucky. We both seem to have really grown as people in our time apart.

I'm getting an extremely positive feeling here so far.