The cheapest and best path is to negotiate with WAS. If that fails, move to parenting coordinator, mediator, lawyers, then last resort judges.
The only problem here is that she never wants to talk about it, she just wants her L to tell her what to do so she can absolve herself from any responsibility for the damage caused by the decisions....
In your Sitch right now, you are floating between the lawyers and the mediator....no point in talking to W. It is all about getting agreements in place, in writing. Keep it simple. The lawyers are drafting papers that you and your wife will sign. This will be your agreement. A mediator is cheaper than two lawyers, but better than direct negotiation AT THIS POINT IN TIME FOR YOU. Your agreements will be filed with the courts. Last resort is a judge will make decisions about the things you do not agree on.
As time goes by, hopefully WAS will realize that email agreements is the cheapest and best way to do this.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
