If there is an OP how does that change my situation?
Her emotional needs are met by another man. She's infatuated with this guy and her thinking is screwed up (PEA chemicals). A OM is a lifeboat she can leave you because she has a soft place to land. A OM is wrong. She's spending time, money, energy, love, affection, thoughts and dreams away from her family. Your efforts will be thwarted. It will eat away at your self-esteem to let the A continue.
You need to do your intel on this. Phone records, txts, IMs, e-mails. Notice anything new she is doing? Texting all the time, different music, clothes, grooming, perfume, etc.
It changes how you approach DB if there is an affair. There is a good decision tree over on the "Infidelity" forum.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
