You are wrong, we had vicious fights when we were married and one that spurred him out the door. I was not innocent either.
HOwever, I have changed enormously since he left. He on the other hand stated a new life of partying, and seeing OW three months after we were apart. WE were supposed to start MC on the fouth month to work on our marriage - never happened. Now I know why.
I know this is the truth. I have told his mother, and one of his friends. That's it. I'm sure his brothers know from his side - in fact the little brother is the one with the drugs and who he hangs out with with OW.
He has a clear conscience to say he "decided to leave and move on". Seriously. That didn't stop him from eventually going to MC because he was "unsure" for five months - all to lead me to signing the legal sep papers. He dangled possible reconsiliation in front of me until the legal sep was final. Then he stopped MC, told me he wasn't coming back, and bought an airplane.
This is why I struggle with it being an "affair" vs. "moving on".
