Hi all-

I just want to be clear here.

I will be leading the process of the Separation Agreement to insure that I am fully protected and that the conditions of the divorce are plain. We both need to know the exact details.

At this point, I do not intent to "push the button" on the actuall petitioning of the court to sign off. During the time of creating the Sep Agreement several things could occur to change my position-

I decide that I'm done (regardless of below)and will push the button
Affair ends
Her behavior/living conditions are unsafe for D2
She fails to adhere to the current financial/custody arrangement

I hope that clears up my position.

I was beginning to see that some of you felt I was "done" and running headlong to Divorce.

I am talking control and expediting the reality.

We BOTH need to see the nitty gritty.

But I need to know EXACTLY where I will stand if and when I have to push the button.

And she needs to see that I have that option.

I followed/reacted for far too long.

THAT behaviour is DONE!