I wrote her letters but it did nothing for me or the situation. I'm working on OWH now.
Spend your time and energy where you can make some headway.

As for the attorney -I just dropped a lot of money - worth every penny if it puts my family back together.

Me:38 H: 45
OW:34
S:4 Bonus S: 12 and 16
2nd M for both
Together 12 yrs M: 6
EA suspected: 5/10 confirmed: 7/2/10
Separated: 8/12/10