We returned from our trip last night. We spent the week doing some very physically demanding work (demolishing cinder block basement walls in preparation for rebuilding new walls).
Things went very well until just before we returned home. I spent the week sleeping on brother-in-law's couch and wife slept on an air mattress in a spare bedroom. Just before bed on Saturday night wife sat with me on the couch and started crying and talking about how she doesn't want to return home - she doesn't want to go back to the life she has at home (wants to be near family? live in the country? do outdoor projects around the house?).
She told me she still plans to divorce me and asked me to be discreet (my brother just discovered his wife's affair and went very public with it on Facebook - she's afraid I will do the same). Later that evening, about 3AM, wife joined me on the couch - said she was cold.
We spent the following day visiting family and acting as if all is well. Now we are home and doing the same.
((( Mrbt )))
I think you have let her know countless times that a D is not what you want -- the ball is in her court. She seems to be sending you mixed signals (she wants a D but doesn't want to move back to her her old town and also, inviting you on trips).
Now is a really good time to decide -- what do YOU want? Have you seen a L at all? She is using you while she waffles back and forth.
I agree with everyone else -- no R talks. Is she still contacting OM? As long as that is going on, your M will never have her attention 100%.
