When the pressure is off, and you agree with her, you can both have a good time. I understand the-my fuel was spent-comment. I am the same way. Every time my W and I have the R talk and I agree about D and that we could not recover from the past year, we have a couple of good days. I would even say good ones. Without fail, though, she goes right back to being withdrawn and defensive about everything. I ignore her moods and carry on with the kids the best I can as if nothing was wrong.
I'm sure she is hurting. You saw her on the couch crying. It is her decision, not yours. Keep everything moving so she has to face reality.
