It's really easy (and tempting) to focus all your energy on giving your wife what she needs/wants, especially right now. But that's the path to more failure.
I know what my wife's complaints are now, after listening and thinking the last two months. BUT I also know what I want;
I want quality time with her. I want physical attention (not just sex). I want emotional intimacy. I want fun times with just her (not family outings). I want honesty and openness, not game playing.
Think of all the things you've dreamed of in a "perfect relationship." Through out all the nonsense of marathon 7 day love making sessions. Figure out what you want and need, and then try to determine if she can meet those needs.
