I am only trying to identify and change what I can control.
I wasn't asking you to try to change her. I was just asking you what YOUR marital complaints were.
It's widely held here that we are to JETTISON our old marriages when we go thru this, and try to instead build a NEW one, from healthier, stronger positions and foundation. You can't do that if you don't "identify" -- and then learn to communicate to her -- what it is YOU need from the marriage.
