You're right. I'm at fault for part of this but not all of it. She walked away. I'm not sure how to confront without her twisting it around that I have spied on her or violated her privacy and that once again I'm selfish and immature.
You simply say "I know all about you and _______ , and it needs to stop, now. It's incredibly direspectful to me and to our marriage."
If she asks you HOW you know, say "I'm not going to tell you that," and STICK TO THAT.
NEVER REVEAL THE SOURCE(S) OF YOUR INTEL!!!
bk, I'm not sure why you feel it's "selfish and immature" to try to protect your wife from a predator.
