So I "happened" to find more than a few emails on my W's computer of at the very least an EA with an OM. Really painful to read as it was happening while we were still living together.
bk, this is precisely why I was trying to get you to open up your mind to the possibility that many of your wife's marital complaints were simply the "re-writing of marital history" that we learn about when we study affairs. Once a woman's (or a man's, for that matter) brain gets flushed with the PEAs (endorphines) that accompany a new relationship, she will then begin to not only be blocked to you emotionally, but will actually RE-WRITE YOUR MARITAL HISTORY, claiming to be "unhappy for a long, long time," for instance.
This is SCRIPT, and it happens in nearly EVERY affair.
I liked what someone from the MLC forum posted on CD Bear's thread: focus not on their laundry list of complaints, but on those few that "sting." In other words, those ones that -- in YOUR heart of hearts -- you know to be true. Because someone in an affair will gaslight you every time.
