Well its at the end of next week, its exact on Saturday 18th but the days preceeding it could bring what you were hoping for..(and we are having IUI Thu or Fri of that week!):
One day will sparkle more brightly than diamonds in the Sun, and that will be Saturday, September 18, when Jupiter (good fortune) will conjoin Uranus (surprise) in Pisces! If you've been praying for a miracle, one may be on the way to you on this day. You may hear news on the weekdays that precede this day, Thursday, September 16 or Friday, September 17.
Thanks girls. The injections have got easier and are not too bad (total nightmare the first night, blood everywhere! ) and I'm feeling pretty positive. I just had acupuncture and I have booked to have it the hour before and also after the IUI treatment next week.. then we have to wait 2 weeks and see if its worked! I've not got my hopes up though, so I wont be devastated if it doesnt.
Feeling pretty philosophical generally.. after what I went through, with DH walking out, going NC, stringing me along for 8 months, going NC again, dating someone else for 8 months and then...coming back and asking me to marry him.. well, things happen for a reason and when they are meant to, right?
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Well, we had our IUI.. it was.. painful !! I think the clinic mistimed it slightly from knowing my own cycle and the research I have done, which whilst is not a disaster, would effectively cut our chances down :sad:
H still has some issues around libido. He insists its not me, he does have passion for me and thinks I am gorgeous.. but he cant explain why he isnt often s*xual with me, or want it as often as I know men should (from ex bf's). I wonder if its guilt. He finds it very hard to talk about, takes it as a critiscism perhaps.. and said he feels like he is 'letting me down'. He is very reassuring and insists its NOT me and it upsets him that I keep wondering if it is and we do ML regularly, but it feels an effort sometimes. It makes me wonder if he was like that with Helen..or not, how often they did it and it makes me feel jealous and frankly a little insecure, despite his reassurances. Actions speak louder than words, right. I cant pile that on him too as I dont want him to cave altogether.. we have baby making to do afterall !
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I remember when I was trying to get pregnant how focused I was on that. I got into such a funk because each month I felt like I was failing somehow. Around this time I found out about ex's first affair. No attempts at baby making then!
About a month after finding out about the affair I had a bad accident and wasn't allowed to fly for about a month while my neck was healing. I really examined why I should stay. I loved him still, I had fertility issues and sadly I thought of the time it would take to dissolve this marriage and start all over with someone new. Some immaturity of a 27 year old talking there.
Then I got pregnant. We never worked on issues or why it happened and I was trusting and naive enough to believe it when he said he would never do that again. My point is when my thoughts were on other issues, my body was able to do what it should.
I know you want a baby. I get that, really. Maybe take a month or two and still do what you have to in regard to meds or shots or whatever but focus on just the two of you and how incredible it is that you are both together now. You might be pleasantly surprised.
lots of hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Its funny because I'm not in fact desperate for a baby, in fact the thought of all those years of childcare in front of me when I am already nearly 40 kind of scares me! But I love H and I want US to have a baby, for us, for our R and for him, as he would make a great Dad and wants to be a Dad. And I'd be a great Mum
Interesting tale Kat, everyone says the same.. it happens as soon as you let go and stop trying. Like how people often fall pg naturally once they start getting IVF treatment after years of infertility. We're on a bit of a medical treadmill at the moment as we're grabbing all the free help until my 40th in March..then we have to start paying. From that point, I think I will let go a bit.
Hey, I've been trying to call to a number that nobody answers. I changed my mobile and I am not sure I kept the right one of yours. If you can sent me a message so that I can keep the right mobile number...
BTW, the new book of Schnarch is about sex and intimacy in long term relationships. He says that having low desire in a LTR is NORMAL, as it should be. And he says the way to change that is to "stretch" beyond the comfort zone, adding new tricks (lol, my translation of his words, ha ha) and focusing on intimacy...
I think reading it would make you feel better. It's great how he explains how it is apsolutely normal and right to hit low desire periods. K
) and I'm feeling pretty positive. I just had acupuncture and I have booked to have it the hour before and also after the IUI treatment next week.. then we have to wait 2 weeks and see if its worked! I've not got my hopes up though, so I wont be devastated if it doesnt. 