Welcome, although its unfortunate your sitch brought you here..you are in a good place. You will find help and support, but only "if" you want to put some elbow grease into it.
Reading the DR is a good start, I did the same, and too late as well. I made all the same mistakes everyone else made. I joined this group just recently and find the advice and support to be extremely valuable.
The key is YOU, not the H, not the R. As long as you focus on being OK in the end, you will. It may also have other rewards, it may not.
We all have our stumbles here and there - this place is good for a pick me up...a pep talk here and there. Be open and honest as you can be.
