Originally Posted By: Steady
"Anger is the poison you drink waiting for the other person to die."


That is my point exactly and...

A man's reach should exceed his grasp.

I am not suggesting Utopia here. I am saying if you are enforcing the boundary of I will not not live in an open M

...then call it what it is. You are seeking a divorce because she crossed your boundary.

Did that boundary exist before you came here?

Healing is a process and you may very well decide to divorce before you are good way through it.

If your motivations are weighted in areas of anger, spite and revenge

...then be assured you are in for disapointment that they will be satisfied by this decision.

I can only speak for myself here. I did divorce after 10 years of M for some of the same reasons you listed up there.

Your honor, your dignity are YOURS.

Think about this.

How did this get taken from you?

Will this be restored by YOU gettting a divorce.

Where does your honor and your dignity come from?

Your honor is the sum of who you are.

Your dignity comes from acting on your honor.

My point here is don't do this for any other reason than your own.

Don't invest in teaching your W a lesson or showing the world you are man enough to divorce your W.

Invest in you.

Decide who you are and make decisions based on that.

Not reacting to what someone does to you.

Do it for your own reasons that are based in your honor.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am