Hi, I am back on the board after 4 years from getting my wife back after a split.
The information and support I got was invaluable in getting my marriage back, but I have let all the good work good to waste and she wants out again!!!!
We got back together after I started to change as a person, lost weight, got involved in various activities, and made her No1 in my life, but some how we have fell into the same old routine and she wants out.
She has told me I'm a loner, who does not interact, aggressive in the way I speak, don't do anything with her as a couple, I have mood swings, and she has had enough, I cannot argue with anything she has said, but I'm totally lost without her?
I know I have gone back over,I have no life other than home and work, we don't do anything as a couple anymore, after putting this right previously, she goes to the gym and has friends, whilst I'm happy just to be at home and it's not working.
Anyway, yesterday she has told me that she wants me to leave and find somewhere else to live, I knew it was coming as the tension had been building for about a month, I said that I don't want to leave her or the children, both under 12, and that I want to work on putting it right.
She said that it was too late, I had worn her down and enough was enough, I had to go.
I explained that I was not walking out on her and my family, I loved them all too much and I want to put it right, she then said that she would have to leave then, I told her I cannot control what she does, but I want to be able to put things right, my son heard all this and got upset, my wife went to console him but he pushed her away and came to me saying he did not want to go, she then accused me of manipulating him beacuse I cuddled him? what was I suppose to do push him away??
Anyway, we slept in seperate beds but I'm so scared of loosing her, this morning I left for work after a polite "alright"
I admit I might not have been the best husband/father, I have a stressful job and I tend to bring it home, which I hate, but I love my family, my lifestyle and don't want to loose it!!!
I don't know what to expect tonight, I'm backing off and not pestering her for answers, but hate the fact I have messed it all up again, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
