Bobby, I am going through much of what you are going through. If she has not filed, then she may not. Remember, If this is MLC, then believe nothing of what they say and half of what they do. Some of them take a while to go to the bother of filing for divorce etc. That is ok, because this can take a long time. It may even take years. It probably will. If she files, then you can deal with that when she does. So what does Bobby want to do with this time you now have? This time is a gift for you to discover yourself and find out who Bobby is. I know I am preaching with the choir here, but this is the only way. You must find yourself to go either path. If your wife comes around, not likely soon, you have to be the light in the darkness of MLC. If she divorces you, she may reconcile in the future or you will be moving on in your life. So work on yourself. Keep reading threads here. You will notice a pattern throughout and that will give some hope and understanding to you. Be the rock for your kids. I know it is tough with what is happening to you now, but they need to know they have one sane parent throughout this tragic time for your family. Most of what I am saying you have heard already. I know this. If you are like me, you need to hear it over and over until it truly sinks in. Yes this is really lousy and unfair and does not make sense, but it is not your journey or timeline for this to get resolved. Be thankful that you are the sane one for your kids.
