Start of the end..

[BigJohn]

Hello all, and thanks for checking on me
Any advice, or stories that I could send them?

What about Coach and his wife? And don't forget about Sandi2's story.

My STBXW is taking me to court for emergency orders to say that I am disposing of marital assets, then at pre-trial followup her attorney filed a filing with the court that is just full of lies, and is now forcing me to answer 'interrogetories' of ridiculous nature...I literally just took two days off of work to write a 10 page Microsoft Word document response to her Legal questions. And I have 2 other requests and document discovery to still go through!!!! Ugh!!!

This is beyond ridiculous- I obviously don't know all of the complexities of your case, but it sure sounds more like your STBXW is trying to break you- financially, mentally and emotionally. I have not had the need to do so myself, but there are resources out there- books, on the internet, support groups- that can help you counter a lot of this BS from your STBXW and her scumbag L. I could be mistaken, but RobX is someone who comes to mind who may have more insight into some guerrilla tactics that you could use to defend yourself from this stuff.

And in the midst of all this, I have been working on myself, and seeing life in new ways, truly, and spending time with a women whom I didn't expect in my life... The irony or dichotomy, or whatever you want to call it, has not been lost on me...It didn't even dawn on me how happy I have been, until a friend of mine posted a picture of me on a facebook page that so startled me, and was so shocking, I couldn't believe it. You could tell in the photo that I was actually, 100 percent, truly happy with this huge smile and just enjoying myself, and the photo brought back the feeling of that moment and I was amazed.

Very cool! I'm going through and thinking the same kind of things. (Except the new woman- but I'm going to start working on that one soon!) It is an amazing sense of self realization and awareness- going through one hell of a gauntlet and surviving while in the process becoming 10 times the man that you were before.

You are going to be just fine my friend, I have no doubts about that- regardless of what your STBXW does. Take care!