WAW Wants to Be Alone

[FaithnAK]

Faith-

It's gonna be tough to do especially face to face. So I would avoid those situations. e.g tough to confront you at home if you're not there.

Is there a time frame to keep in mind or just stay dark all the way til Divorce day - 9/30?

I guess what I'm asking is, am I trying draw her to come to me/write me/tell me the truth after a few weeks? Or am I sending the message I'm going out of this marriage with my self respect? Or both?

Q1- Dark til you have legal matters. But this depends most on your next question-

Ask yourself:

Knowing what you know now and how you feel about the lying (YOUR PERSONAL BOUNDARY) do YOU REALLY want to draw her out and get the truth (you already know it-her version will be guilt covering lies again anyway)

OR

Send the message (most importantly TO YOU)I'm going out of this marriage with my self respect?

Hey there CD

Yeah, I'm in no mood for face to face and I doubt she is either.

I want my self respect. Period.

No, I don't want to draw it out. I was just asking that to see what type of result, if any, to watch for. Yeah, I wouldn't really believe anything coming out of her mouth right now. My Boundary is firm on that issue even if we were to reconcile.

See my problem is that I was playing the wait a few hours approach in responding or watching for importance because I felt like I was neglecting her. Now I'm not the bad guy any more. I acknowledged everything I have done wrong. I even apologized to her. So she has to live with the guilt (if any) now. I have NO reason to respond at all.