Hi rb, so sorry you are here, but here is a place where you can keep your sanity and get through this roller coaster ride.
I think IC would be a great idea for you. H is throwing a lot of stuff at you, and even when your intellect is saying not to believe it, there always seems to be that tiny bit of self doubt that can eat you alive.
And here is a wonderful place to post the snarky responses that you want to say to H, but just know are not the right thing to do if you want to save your M. Seriously--throwing water on him is cause for trauma? Advice I got was think about if this was happening to your best friend, what would you advise?
Stay strong.
Dagny
Me 48, H49, M24, S14, S11 DB #1 4/2002-8/2003 Bomb #2 August 2010 & he moved out Living with OW