You call a lawyer first.. don't let him push you around like this.
If you aren't ready to talk if you aren't ready to make choices then DON'T let him PUSH you to do so...
My main avice right now is NOT to do ANYTHING involving him YET... speak with a lawyer FIRST.. do NOT give your H ANY info or warning you are doing this.. Just make the appointment and go.
Get friends and family involved and find out where you stand legally FIRST...
Then you can make INFORMED choices at a pace YOU are comfortable with.
Ther'es only one thing you have to tell your H right now
NO
That's it... He calls, he wants to talk
NO
And you get friends to support you and confront him to leave you ALONE right now...
He's taking advantage of how you feel and it's NOT acceptable...
NO
That's all you need right now... I would HIGHLY reccomend you get STRONG friends who you have exposed this affair to for help speaking up where it is NECESSARY... Right now all they have to do is tell him to BACK OFF.
Change your cell phone number... or get a new cell phone.
You need PROTECTION from him right now or he will exploit your emotional pain to his advantage.. do NOT accept calls or meetings.. Just take a BREAK from him for at LEAST two weeks... get a friend or family member to speak for you and tell him to back off until YOU decide to contact him.
