NM, glad to hear you went out even if you didn't find anyone suitable for you. Don't worry there's plenty of fish in the sea. You'll find your guy soon enough! You seem very easy going and most guys would appreciate your up front and honest demeanor.
I can't stop laughing about Mr. Giggolo and your interpretation of why he was acting that way. Guys and girls really are from two different planets. If I see it from your PoV I can totally see how you would think he's needy and needing validation (though a lot people after suddenly being single are...been there done that lol) but from his PoV he was trying to 'not be shy' and 'more outgoing' and 'showing self-confidence' etc that they tell you to do- which honestly is all BS. I believe in being yourself so that the right person finds you. Why be someone you're not, attract someone based on these made up traits which you don't possess. I guess we all learn and do things our own way.
Male companionship, that's fair you've been at this for a while and it's only natural. But are you talking about just a fling or someone special?
Regarding the 28yo girl it's good to have friends you can hang with. BTW is she cute and available? hook a brotha up!!!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Male companionship, I know what you mean! Well, at least I just want a bunch of guys to hang out with. Not necessarily to date. You know, the type that are funny but a little nerdy? Kinda like hanging out with Andy Richter and Conan O'Brien. Those kind of guys... I always got 'in' because WH was in, but it's kind of hard to crack their clique without him!
GM- NOT ALL meetups are hook ups, but this one totally seemed like it. The hunt was "palpable!"
CW- I do think ALL OF US get set in our ways to some extent as we get older. I am going to try really hard to stay open and flexible like the Aussie chick.
IR-trust me, THAT GUY was completely and obviously insecure! He didn't chat with any men, either! AND .... normally I DO like to make plans and I have lots of quirks! I do not want to settle for a guy who calls me whenever- that is not my long term plan! So I would be more like ask him out, wait for him to ask me out on a 2nd date, then maybe a 3rd, then I would ask him out like "let me know if you want to do something next week! Give me a call to figure out a time." And then he would need to call me. If a week went by and I didn't hear from him, I WOULD MOVE ON!
Male companionship as in a boyfriend. Not a fling. My friend IS very pretty and cute, but is in the process of losing weight. SHe has lots of tattoos and is a CRACK UP and a dare devil and a devoted mom.
Gatsby- I love those guys! Yeah..for me it has now been 17 months of separation from stbxh. I was not having any desire for men until this summer (14 months separated?).
Well tomorrow is the first day of school. I had another friend help me to get set up in the room. It is all ready! I have my plans all typed out, the pencils all sharpened, the name tags all ready to go with kids' names on them. Everything is neat and tidy, and it will last a day! Wish me luck- I always get butterflies.
Montana (my nickname for my 28 year old friend) and I are going to a karaoke night at a pub NEXT Tuesday night. It will be an experiment- I will stay out until 11 and go to bed at 11:30. Obviously stbxh has S so I can sleep in a little bit- til 6:45? as long as I get to work by 8!
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Oh and there are 3 pics of me posted under the meetup event. I mean I am with Montana and J or with Montana. Wonder if zoobrew will see them? One is the 3 of us standing in front of these REALLY TALL (like 6'4+) men- and all we did was go up and say "hi, how's it going?" and then got our picture taken by someone. But zoobrew doesn't know if I hung out with them or not, lol!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Enjoy the first day of school! I am a little jealous because I am starting my third full week.
Me29 S3 H left 4/1/09 I file 8/2/10 Divorce final 5/17/11 1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52 2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg 3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89
Thanks Mystik and Awest! So it went okay...I definitely forgot some things that are basic (I block out a lot of the first week for my clueless babes to be honest) but then instinct kicked in.
I also checked my email and saw there were pictures posted from the meetup on Saturday night. Holy crap- there were pics of me and my gals with 2 men I didn't know, a pic of me taking a "shot" (large plastic syringe w/ some concoction) and I forgot about it! I didn't block it out completely but the point is that I had way too much to drink that was intensified by my anti-d's. SO DUMB! Obviously I haven't done that kind of drinking in a long time and not while on the anti-d's. I wonder if zoobrew saw them. Oh well- mostly I am just aware now that a couple of drinks is my limit when going out- not 5!!! Just confessing on here. Luckily J drove me home so I didn't have to worry about driving but still....LESSON LEARNED.
So that's all to update.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
a different confession...due to the fact that I have one divorced friend outside of my meetup group and family(who is 46...divorced 7years now)I feel like an odd ball among my friends and coworkers. Like there is something about marriage and relationships that I just don't "get."
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
