Sadder still is when you know how you'd like your relationship/marriage to look and work and can express it only to have that view/ideal stood on it's head. Settling for some level of friendship, in the absence of a degree of certainty about a deeply intimate relationship, can often be tolerable in a no-win scenario.
The Captain
Friendship!!?!
None of my friends ever threatened to call the cops on me for wanting a healthy sexual relationship with my wife.
