Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[mishka422]

And I also had a revelation last night, since this marriage thing isn't working out so well, I've decided I'm going to switch teams when it is all done.

LOL. I had a good laugh over this one. It's not a horrible idea, but trust me....women are much tougher to deal with than men. Hormones are a serious problem! LOL

Ok, seriously now.....I understand it's shocking that your IL's would avoid you but blood is thicker than water. They most likely feel like they must stand by their son because he's their flesh and blood. They may not agree with his choices but they really have no ability to cut him off either. You, on the other hand, are in their hearts as are their grandchildren so it makes it uncomfortable for them to be open to you given the situation.

I hate to say it but it's going to be up to the kids to maintain their R with their grandparents. You can be friendly with them but don't expect them to be open with you about their feelings. You'll have to relegate them to aquaintance status now or you will be hurt further by their seeming indifference.

If you were so comfortable being back north why stay where you are? Can't you just move back now? Proximity to your H is not necessarily a good thing given the distance up his butt his head is lodged.