Honey, I hope you got your mani-pedi. Dont you just love the way they feel!
And about your children - I learned the hard way to get out of the way of their relationship with their father.
Early on, I would try to cajole my h to call his son. I would do the same with my son. I wanted so desperately for that relationship to remain intact. But that was not good for either of them.
I realized if I had to force my h to call his son, is that really the relationship I wanted them to have? Uh uh. I knew that I wanted for my son whatever relationship he wanted to forge with his father. I promised myself I would do nothing to interfere with it and I stayed out of the way. I have not to this day said a bad word about his father, nor have I ever made it uncomfortable when his dad comes to see him. My son has thanked me for this.
So, while I know as a mom you cannot imagine not being with your kids, hearing their voices, seeing their faces, it is clearly your children and your h's choice to make - hard as that is to let them do.
And your children are certainly old enough to do what they feel is best for themselves. And they have now told you that right now, its best for them to not hear from him. That may change, it may not, but you have to respect their right to make the decision.
