Sunny I understand what you're saying. But don't overlook the possibility he's in processing mode still.
Men are funny creatures like that. We tend to process alone and think things through.
That's why I suggested the innocuous plans. Something non-threatening. It's working on the marriage in a subtle way. Of course there's going to come a time when you both will have to openly look at the issues in the M and actually communicate about them.
In the meantime keep doing things for yourself. Keep building yourself a nice life.
Yep - probably still processing, for sure. I'm sure it doesn't help that I am still processing too. One day I'm thinking I need to have more patience with all of it and the next, I feel I should be more productive: that allowing things to continue as is will just cause a constant stream of more of the same. I mean, why should he change anything if he doesn't have to, right? Yet, maybe - as some suggest - it's too soon to expect him to feel good enough about the R to actually start working on it.
I ask myself - isn't HE tired of living like this too??? Doesn't he want a partner and the good times back??? (Thats rhetorical, of course.)
