Mystik - please go back and read your posts when you decided to have no contact with your H for a few days. I think you will see that you sounded MUCH stronger, more rooted in reality and better able to assess things.
Your patterns are clear - when you have any contact with your H you regress way, way back. I understand you have a son and *some* contact is necessary but you do invited a good bit of this pain in to your life daily.
Your H's time with your son ended today when your H dropped him off yet you CHOSE to ALLOW your H to linger around and visit. So what if *he* wanted to? Now he is home, comfortable and content in his home with OW and you are sad and back at square one.
IMO you are way too accommodating to him about the constant (and they are constant) schedule changes which forces you to have more interaction with your H. You base your actions on what you think your H wants. You said above "it seemed like my H wanted to visit a bit more". Um, SO WHAT? It's time for Mystik to stop considering every whim of a cheating spouse and get some order.
Your H knows how to play you like a fiddle and IMO you are scared to make him angry or upset. If him requesting you move closer to HIM, his mistress and their soon to be newborn didn't propel you forward, well, what will?
Thus far he has asked you to accommodate him legally, he has essentially demanded you accommodate him when he decides he is missing his son and now suggesting you MOVE YOUR HOME to accommodate *his* new life. Enough.
There is no way to get around this pain short of lots of hard work BUT there is a way to block the other person from having free reign of applying constant pain.
Please go back and read your posts when you are dark - it is the only time you really sound like you have any control. Stop letting this man hurt you further!
