First off, I would like to thank you for your gracious comment about me on another thread. Thank you
I would like to apologize for this post to you. I hope you do not take it the wrong way. Personally, I admire your spunk. Always have. I think you are an amazing woman. You are also a very angry woman.
You have every right to be angry - many of us do. However, IMO you are wearing your anger on your sleeve. You are projecting your anger and I think it is consuming you right now. Do you think your H ca tell? I think he may be able to.
You are giving your H and OW WAY too much control over YOUR emotions. I sooo understand the need to vent. Chit we all need to. However once we vent we must let go. We must detach from our spouse craziness in order to begin our journey towards healing. I think Punkin you are stuck in anger.
May I respectfully suggest that you use the anger to help you do the following:
- determine where you went wrong in the M and begin to work on changing these things. For example, if control was an issue then your recent email stunt was a form of control and manipulation. Do you want your H back at any cost? Do you think manipulating him is giving him enough rope to hang himself? Would you prefer he come back but spend his days thinking about OW? Or would you prefer he come back when he has done the work and finally came to the conclusion that he loves you?
- use the anger to determine what your life will look like. What you want for your life. No one can make someone do something they do not want to do. We can though control what we do for ourselves. Do you know what you will do if he never returns? Maybe you expand energy thinking about this as opposed to OW.
- you need to begin to release the anger you have. It does you no good.
Please punkin think about this and really let him go - he just may return if given the chance to figure his chit out.
God Bless Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
