My H's family is small and mostly knows about our separation. My family is big and does NOT yet officially know. Our close friends know but not extended friends. We've been separated 7 months and my H seems totally unrealistic, thinks people aren't figuring this out, doesn't want them to know.

I'm not willig to go through the holidays w/o telling my family. AS THINGS ARE TODAY, I don't plan to spend holidays w my H but he probably doesn't realize this. I'll need to tell my family by sometime in October.

Can anyone provide advice or experiences on telling friends and family. Is it typical for the MLCer NOT to want to divulge? Is there typical way they respond when you do it anyway?

THANK YOU

M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years