9 months after my W first asked for a D, I moved out, telling my W that it would be for exactly 30 days so we could cool down, I'd move by my religious centre so I could get back to my roots and build my will-power, and that I could get some help for a diagnosis with a sexual addiction to porn. The next day, she began looking for a lawyer and that made all our issues worse.
When a spouse reaches out, even after infidelity, doesn't the real question come to if you want to accept him back? Even if he did cut off contact, are you getting IC to deal with your issues and feelings about what he did?
My W isn't. So, we are stuck and likely divorcing. Who would stay with someone who won't trust you?
What about you? Are you willing to accept that he might slip? If he did, at what point would you draw a line?
If you decide to have him back, he needs to feel wanted and important to you...can you give that to him? He also needs to know the rules, agree to them, and know that they are fair for him as much as they are to you. Maybe he could suggest to you what he thinks is fair...that would give you an indication of where his mind is now.
