I was trying to avoid saying, but yes the OP is a woman. I have already told her that it is her or me, not both. Wife says that she loves me, but also loves them. Maybe I am deluding myself by thinking she did indeed go to a friend's to think. Hardest part is the 6yo. She is, and has always been a mommie's girl. We bareley made it through this weekend and I don't know if I can handle her if she does not go with her mom.
The her/me speech is controlling. It's more that you are unwilling to share W. I'm not trying to be cruel, your W spent weekend w/her lover. Seems as if most everybody on the board has been thru this.
It's your call really. Are you ok w/your W being sexually involved w/OW? If you aren't, send her to the couch or out the door. As for D, if you & W S, then you will have to find ways to manage D w/o W. No time like the present.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
