Just had a thought. My wife is always talking about "letting me down" if she can't get that spark back in our R. The whole ILYBINILWY attraction thing. Says she's trying hard, everyday, yadda yadda yadda. We cuddle in bed when I initiate it, we hold hands when I initiate it, we spend a lot of time together as a family, and as a couple watching movies and talking etc.
She said that when I take her hand, she wonders when she's going to want to take the initiative to hold mine instead of waiting for me.
She's afraid it won't come back. Not because it'll hurt me. But because it will hurt her. She said I'm impatient, very impatient. She's afraid of me leaving her, of not sticking with her through this. Afraid of losing everything.
How can I Judo this? Turn this around? I'm confident, I'm in great shape, I'm doing things for myself, my GAL. I'm really happy with how my life is going, and I think that she's not sure if she's in the plan.
I'm doing a ton of home improvements, partially because they've needed to be done, and partially because they'll make our house more saleable if things go pear shaped.
Yep it's limbo, but it's a limbo I've designed. My own private Idaho...
My wife is going out of town for a week, and I'm going to try and take a week away the following week. Two weeks away will be good for both of us.
