Australia

[JCJ]

Ugh, apparently exh has sent me a postcard - these were Essie's words (I got him to send it to her as I don't really have an address) ...

'If you had normal person expectations, now would be the time to adjust them to lowest of the low expectations as only a DB-er could do! '

I don't want his cr@ppy postcards! What is he doing sending me postcards?! What am I supposed to do with this? I need help now, I don't know what I should be doing now. What does being divorced look like? How should a divorced couple act - I guess taking the word 'couple' out of the equation.

[TimeHeals]

What does being divorced look like? How should a divorced couple act

How do you want to act? What do you think is right? Let your principles guide you, and be the person you want to be.

[JCJ]

Well, this is why i am so torn. I spent so long divorce busting, trying to save my marriage and then last month I end up divorced anyway. It is so against my nature to reject someone but the more I have no contact with him the better I am. But my head says reject and my heart screams out no.

I know what I should do - ignore him I guess, we have no reason for contact, no children and no house anymore. That is what is best for me, it is just putting it into practice that is the hard part.

[MichelleLT]

Ugh. Sorry to hear that my dear. Isn't it funny how we do SO much better when we have NC? LOL I'll never quite understand why they want to be all friendly afterwards.

((((HUGS))))

[JCJ]

I read on FB he's in Bangkok now with his girlfriend. How glad am I that I am not there. Ugh, ugh and ugh!

[mishka422]

Yeah, good thing you got out of there.

If NC is best for you then remove him as a friend from FB, ignore the post card, and keep going on like you have been. You've been living a remarkable life....keep doing it!!

[JCJ]

I just can't seem to do it Mishka

It is exciting to be travelling but it is also very hard by yourself.

[mishka422]

I'm sure it does get wearing doing all of that alone.

What can't you seem to do Julia? Delete him from FB? Or ignore the postcard? We all know you are living a remarkable life already!

What is causing you the most pain? Whatever that is, discover a way to change it to something more manageable for you.

(((((Julia))))))

[MichelleLT]

What's with him copycatting you? LOL He jealous of the life you are living or something? Of course, who wouldn't be!

Traveling alone definitely gets old. But you have met some good fiends, and seem to have made some friends as well.

[smith18]

Be careful with that sun as I heard Queensland has one of the highest rates of skin cancer in the world.

Being away from home sure does seem like it would make it harder to lose the emotions towards your X. But you are gaining an incredible life experience and independence. The occasional bouts of loneliness and lament are expected.

I would imagine that the English accent of yours is quite the lure for the single Aussie men.

I assume you have heard the term POME before. I had quite a laugh the first time it was explained to me.

Have you seen any of the south side up world maps where Australia is at the top and middle of the map?