SSM after an A by LD spouse....thoughts?

[dgtal]

DLS:
I'll be happy to post all details. It's supposed to be a natural drug that cost $100 X 3 months supply, plus the the additional $75 for the consult and $90 for the saliva test. The blood test (special requested by the doctor) was covered by my insurance.

I'm hoping for this as one of the last resource I have to validate my W LD. I can't think about something else. I stopped pushing my wife and she's giving more (1-2 times a week) but with the usually disconfort, like if she were in a hurry to finish it. BTW she gave me a BJ last week, the first one in a year

[DaddyLongShanks]

dgtal,

It would be nice if this remedy provides you with sex rate and desire that you are hoping from your wife. I can't wait to hear about it.

I've been at a zero sex position for longer than I can stand, not looking forward to cheating, but she does have me on the ropes on the direction towards and actual divorce... So...

Keep us informed.

[dgtal]

dgtal,

I've been at a zero sex position for longer than I can stand, not looking forward to cheating, but she does have me on the ropes on the direction towards and actual divorce... So...

Keep us informed.

Will she be willing to go for this kind of test?

[DaddyLongShanks]

dgtal,

I've been at a zero sex position for longer than I can stand, not looking forward to cheating, but she does have me on the ropes on the direction towards and actual divorce... So...

Keep us informed.

Will she be willing to go for this kind of test?

Sir,

Perhaps later. She has too much anger and disappointment today to participate with me.

[dgtal]

In the 4 phases of SSM recovery everybody get stuck here: Phase 3: Get Your Spouse on Board...
I (we)jumped in this phase after month 23th, I'm still there.

[DaddyLongShanks]

My father pointed it out... "She's not with you"...

So in social situations, my current wife will actually go against me over 50% of the time. IE: triangulate against me and give someones elses viewpoint power over me.

The question is, IF YOU WANT TO. How do you bridge her back so that "she IS with you".

Whats all required?

[dgtal]

DLS:
I'll be happy to post all details. It's supposed to be a natural drug that cost $100 X 3 months supply, plus the the additional $75 for the consult and $90 for the saliva test. The blood test (special requested by the doctor) was covered by my insurance.

I'm hoping for this as one of the last resource I have to validate my W LD. I can't think about something else.

6 weeks so far. Total failure NOT IMPROVEMENT

[SillyOldBear]

Never trust anyone who says "It's NATURAL!" As my high school chemistry teacher used to point out, belladonna, arsenic, and Prozac are all natural. Everything is. Yes, you and I know what the advertisers mean to imply, but that doesn't make them honest. I would be very careful about this "doctor." Please post the name of the drug here, and the doctor too if that won't compromise your anonymity too much.

Young at Heart is giving the best advice here, to my mind. Thinking you'll solve a sex-starved marriage with a "true female aphrodisiac" seems to me to miss the point. Looking for a miracle drug that will give her a rush of desire is a waste of time if it's not YOU that she's going to desire. What kind of drug will you give her to make her fall in love? Keep your purpose in mind--you want your wife to be in love with you and desire sex with you. You're not looking to slip some girl a drugged drink and take advantage of her. And if you'll pardon my bluntness, the reason those creepy rapists use rohypnol and GHB instead of these miracle aphrodisiacs is that the miracle aphrodisiacs don't work. There are no aphrodisiacs for either men or women, which is why we muddle along with alcohol (and some people with pot, cocaine, etc.) to lower inhibitions and the viagra family to create erections. None of that is aphrodisiac in intent or result.

[SillyOldBear]

Not sure why the page wouldn't let me finish that one, but if you're still reading . . . no, it's not wrong to be angry. You have the right to be furious. You're right, the sheer irony of a woman who's telling her husband she wants no sex and then going to someone else for a sleazy affair on the side is maddening.

BUT . . . you're also right that if you want to fix this, you have to find a way past that anger. You have no control over how you feel, but you control what you do. I think what you mean by "is it wrong to be angry" is something like "Is it wrong to nag her about this and complain all the time about the injustice of it?"

And the answer is . . . yes. If there's whining and moaning about the injustice of her to be done, do it here. When you talk to her about how much she's hurt you, it should be from a position of strength and confidence. That's easy to say and very, very, very hard to do, unfortunately, but you can do it. And again, this is a safe place to vent.

[dgtal]

Thank you SOB
I think I'm hijacking gmans thread: "SSM after an A by LD spouse...thoughts?" But answering your question regarding the drug, the doctor prescribed her a hormone compound that melts under the tongue, it's called Bi-Estrogens 50/50. When the Dr. anylized her hormone profile she said the reason for the LSD and bad temper was that, regarlees of the tetosterone level which was a little bit low but was ok for her age, she had an anormal cortisol level. She put my wife into a diet program (she can't eat anything containing gluten i.e. bread) and some supplemental vitamins (Seriphos, Trace minerals). Well still she hasn't finished the 2 months try period, she has an appointment by the end of September. We'll see.