Sometimes it pays not to react right away when emotions run high. Even next morning. It's been going on long enough. You can wait.
I know what you mean, but that's what I ALWAYS did. Clearly, hasn't worked out too well... Here's what I think (and that's my new theory so feel free to disagree): I waited to calm down myself and sent him a neutral, not emotionally charged message, and that is better than waiting to bring it up again some day or maybe never (this is how it often ended). It might stop him in his tracks? (if he's still mad)
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
When I got up this morning I didn't have any emails from H so I figured he didn't like my email (mind reading?). However, a little later H sent me a link to an article about the exhibition I went to. I waited a while and replied and we exchanged a few emails. He wasn't hopping to talk to me though so I decided not to be reactive in the conversation and it kind of died down. Ah well. I think I'm doing something wrong there, but I haven't yet figured out what it is.
I think it was a good decision to send him that email yesterday though - what do you think? I'm going to try to say that stuff while we talk rather than after the fact, but I think it was a step in the right direction.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
I don't understand it. 2 hours later he sends me another email just to say something, but nothing to talk about really. I feel like he wants to talk but can't find a subject or wants to talk but really doesn't.
To be more precise, this is how it went. Before the conversation died down, I asked him whether he checked a trial version of something that we both got. He said he's not sure what I'm talking about so I forwarded him the email I got about it. Then there was silence.
Two hours later he writes "yup". This puzzled me so I just said that I kept on forgetting about the trial thing and never checked it out. Then he says: Him: No idea, I didn't check it out. Me: I wasn't sure what the "yup" referred to :P Him: It didn't refer to anything, just one of those things Me: that explains it Him: yup, nothing really, it is my bed time Me: Good night honey
Anyone have any insights??
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
I really wonder about this, do you mean that he's losing attachment or that because I didn't try to keep the conversation up, he tried to do something about it?
I'm confused by this "trying to talk, but not really"...
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
