I hope you aren't suggesting that I'm full of poison.
I don't believe I'm acting from that position at all.
There is nothing vengefull in my plan from my perspective. I am merely intending to:
-eliminate the last crumb of cake eating -FULLY protect myself -expose W to the complete view of the abyss -commitment to OM -her budget -her living condition/std of living change -the unworkability of friendship/emotional conx to me post-D -increase her reliance on her limited support network/OM -set the starting point of my next journey -change the dynamic to ME making decisions -changes OUR view to future rather than 'existing in limbo' -increases mutual 'independence' (for better or worse)
I believe this is healthy for both of us. I can get more comfortable and see more optimism in the sitch; she may see that Divorce improves nothing-or not.
It still allows for reconciliation at any stage down the road. But it gets us going 'down the road' rather than standing still.
