Yes I see that leaving that decision to her is not leading. I do not want a divorce at this point though and will not say I do. Prior to that, I demonstrated my willingness to work on it and do whatever it takes and outlined how we can do it slowly just to try. This is my balance issue. I've tried to assert myself to help ease her daily life pressures by helping domestically even though I don't live there. But I know that this can be seen as pursuing. what would you suggest?
