One of the things I've come to remember is that there is no guarantee no matter how committed and how much you work on stuff you do (or wish to have a different outcome). "Jumping ship, " as it were, provides no guarantees either.
Sadder still is when you know how you'd like your relationship/marriage to look and work and can express it only to have that view/ideal stood on it's head. Settling for some level of friendship, in the absence of a degree of certainty about a deeply intimate relationship, can often be tolerable in a no-win scenario.
The Captain
Last sex: 04/06/1997 Last attempt: 11/11/1997 W Issues "No Means No" Declaration: 11/11/1997 W chooses to terminate sex 05/1998 I gained 60, then lost 85 pounds. Start running again (marathons)
