Just observing the changes

[Sanderika]

Hi Cas,

I have been following along, just not in a good frame of mind to offer advice.

I want to chime in....

If your H wants the divorce let him do the work. If he wants it he will tell you. Hold the lawyers off... You don't want it, don't move it forward.

I read the same as you in your H's words. Currently there is no problem. I think your H is enjoying the reconnection with you.
You are getting many positive signals from him.

Trust me, when there is a problem between the two of you the signs will be undeniable. Your H will turn cold to you and most likely treat you like you are not even in the room when he comes for your daughter. You will not get a reply to contact you attempt. He will avoid, avoid, avoid....You!! He will begin to speak about the divorce once again almost daily. It will be the only thing he will want from you...

The OW may or may not be influencing his current choice. Don't look for trouble in this area. Be hopeful that the relationship is simply coming to an end, as most affairs do.

Let your H lead the way for now, continue to offer him friendship and patience for his current peek out of the tunnel. Nurture him gently without any expectations.

Your H is showing many good signs, be extra careful you don't do the wrong thing and send him back into the MLC tunnel. Take it from me, the situation brewing inside him is fragile and at any moment he can just up and turn the other way.

Patience!! My dear friend, you can do this!!!

(((((Cas)))))

Sanderika