Partner left after 9 yrs - reconciled now married!

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Hey John210 and SD - Thanks for your support and tales of caution... SD, yes I gave up tea and alchohol in January! (apart from the odd one ) and I have goats milk (I guess thats ok?). I think I will restart acupuncture too.

We are aware this stuff can split couples up, but we are solid, loving and supportive of one another and DH said again this morning this isnt going to come between us, baby or no baby. Its hard though - like injecting myself last night!! But we are in it together and we got through it together.

Julia - I went through a funny phase after getting married.. not a come down from the wedding, more a kind of upswell of anger and resentment that he dated Helen. The leaving me bit was understandable, as he knows now that he had a breakdown. But I still feel jealous that he had an R with someone else in the middle of our 11 year R! I still get insecure occassionally (although there really is no need and its ridiculous!) and I still dread the thought of bumping into her. He now has little to do with her at work, thank god, as he is on different projects. We are both glad about that!

Anyway, I didnt post for a while as I talked myself through and out of it.. I am out of that now and back to feeling loved up and frankly grateful that I got to resume my R with him, for life. I'd say to anyone feeling down, insecure, angry, resentful, mistrustful etc after reconciling.. if your partner is back, willing and being his old loving self..do your best to just accept that graciously, on face value and thank the Universe for returning them to you and just.. be happy. We only get one life, dont waste it looking over your shoulder. This is the advice I gave myself anyway!

I think thats because of how devastated and shocked I felt when he left and.. because I once knew a guy...he woke his GF up with a cup of tea one Monday morning, but she was cross at him about something and grumpily ignored it. He went to work, but was killed instantly by a lorry. She was devastated, of course. Stuff like that makes you realise, be glad for what you have, appreciate the good stuff, be happy and half glass full and dont take it for granted - you never know what is around the corner.