Yes, 7 years, September 2003 was our 10th anniversary. Two weeks before that there was a change in H like flipping a light switch. It wasn't until May 2004 that I figured it out, June 2005 when I found this site but it took me a long time to start getting it right. Nothing I did was the right thing to improve my sitch, but there are things I will never regret that I did.
IMO there are things you can do that might not set a sitch going backwards, but there isn't really much you can do to make anything happen. It takes time and patience, and you have to live your life and keep your eyes where you want to go. What you focus on expands.
H and I had a good day working on fence repairs, talking the whole time about stuff and life, and then joined friends for the evening.
Still a long ways up to go but we are going up.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
