I did go back and read the first page of the start of this thread, just to see how things have progressed for me. I need to get back to holding H accountable to the "plan" of improving the M.
It's a difficult line: I don't want to pursue but at the same time, H is supposed to be willing to work on things. SInce he's not doing anything right now to work on the M really, I am wondering if I should hold him accountable to that and how. On one hand the advice is to not bring up R but to let WS do so... on the other... if H is not doing any work toward the R, it isn't going to get any better by itself as we've stated above!
Just my thoughts before heading to bed. I truly think H feels like his just being here and not leaving - and being somewhat pleasant is good enough. It's not. It's a start but it's not enough for changing things.
