Baby born, separated, WH moving overseas for OW

[newmama]

Piano let me share a story that is happening with a friend of mine.

A friend of mine, let's call him MA Man (lives in Massachussetts), is going through some interesting changes. His wife left him in August 09; said she didn't love him. Turns out, she had another man. A friend of hers for a few years. So she says she wants a divorce. He doesn't push for it; he tries Bo Peep and the High Road. Well they meet with a mediator in February 10 but then nothing else. She moved in with the OM at the end of May. MA Man starts dating in June. He finally meets a girl in July that he likes and they are "an item." His W acts like it's no big deal.

She does bring up divorce again in August. He doesn't fight her on it but suggests they wait until January for financial reasons. Throughout the month of August, she begins texting a lot more, calling him. A lot of the texts and calls come during the evenings (when he is with his girlfriend). Long story short, he is seeing his W start to become a little jealous and increases her communication with him. I notice that it has been 3 months since she moved in with OM.

OK so why do I tell you this? Because it has been a year+ since they have been separated. They still aren't divorced, she has moved in with OM, yet she isn't very happy anymore. When he finally detached and got a girlfriend, it rattled his W and she has been interested in him again.

It ain't over til it's over....but I think what helps it to NOT end is when we actually let go and move on. So ironically (is that a word), when we act and live as if it is over...it ain't over.

confusing or what?

In my case, there is still another month to go to mark the 3 month point of stbxh living with OW officially. YOU KNOW once people move in together, they get relaxed and let their guard down and the honeymoon is over! I am curious to see what happens. In process of divorce still...haven't submitted the custody class paperwork and stbxh hasn't asked for it.