[quote=FaithnAK]H I know when something isn't right and I think that Boundary was crossed. I did say something to her about it and she said "I would never bring anyone else in our house". Well...you can see how far her word goes
When my W was having an EA with OM, I asked her if she ever had introduced our S4 to him. She said no, she would never do that because it was just wrong. I found pictures on her computer with S4 and OM together at a playplace. I asked her again. She said, no way in hell would she do that. I tried to let it go. Asked her one more time (this all over the course of 3 weeks or so) and she said she would never ever hurt me like that.
I showed her the pics. She admitted.
People who cheat will say and do anything to protect their fantasy, or protect "hurting you" with the truth.
You W and my W are no exceptions.
LOL. Thank you John. I'm changing the locks.
Dsh - I do believe I can change the locks legally, but I can't deny her entry. I'm just debating if I should...don't know after her being LIE BUSTED if she's gonna get weird.
At one point she was lieing to me last year thinking I was going to "stalk" her. Still don't have a friggin clue where that came from and that's what I'm debating as to how weird it's going to get. As everybody has pointed out, cheaters are liars and I really know now not to trust ANYTHING from her.
Yes and No on the entry thing. If she comes over and acts weird call the cops, its called a verbal disturbance. Even when my W and I were split before, she had OM and would drive by our house and see "other" cars at our house. So I can relate. Even when they have OP they still want to keep tabs on what you are doing. I think part of the lying is guilt, but at the same time LBS's are known to be "waiting in the wings" so when the exposure happens, I believe the WA's say oh sh!t they might cut me out completely and get revenge.....
Yes and No on the entry thing. If she comes over and acts weird call the cops, its called a verbal disturbance. Even when my W and I were split before, she had OM and would drive by our house and see "other" cars at our house. So I can relate. Even when they have OP they still want to keep tabs on what you are doing. I think part of the lying is guilt, but at the same time LBS's are known to be "waiting in the wings" so when the exposure happens, I believe the WA's say oh sh!t they might cut me out completely and get revenge.....
Man Dsh,
Thank you for your input. That's exactly why I want to peak around the corner so to speak.
She's made a few comments to me that has made me feel like she has been tabbing me too. Didn't think anything of it. Just thought it was squirrel moves.
I agree with lying being guilt related, but to be so good at it is scary. She wasn't so good as to hide my gut feeling, but good enough to make me question it.
I see mentions of many WAS's keeping the LBS as back up too. Not sure if that has any part in my Sitch, but if it was my W's plan to keep me close, she's going to find out Mr. Nice Guy is gone. Also don't know if she's trying to cake eat too. I definitely see now, how much control she had even when I wasn't pursuing. This time momentum has carried the ball back into my court and I'm not giving it back
I'm just watching TV right now and trying to figure out how to not be an a$$hole and protect myself.
The lawyer will help on the protection and "potential renegotiation".
Your work is not being the A-hole. Much more difficult.
She's expecting it. How confused will she be when you are not. Kust "business".
very cool.
Yes friend, you are absolutely right. Trust me I've had to fight temptation to be an a$$hole several times today. I truly am exercising self control and I'm hiding my "little boy" quite well.
That's why I'm worried (i wasn't earlier) now about how and when she approaches, because then it's going to be the real test.
