again Pin it goes back to people get to the point of "void" in their M's. They feel they dont need to be that person, who their spouse fell in love with. I go back and forth on this, the advice is to look, feel and well be what they fell in love with. I understand the point in doing this, but at some point do you have to do this every couple of years or face another bomb? That is why I have revisited my first sep over and over, and I have said I am not going to do this every 3 years with the W. Things get tough and she starts packing.
THis is the difference, she needs to see the true meaning of worse in better or "worse" that is not my job to teach her, coach her or hold her hand in the education and realization of what a Marriage is. Sometimes I want to smack her upside the head with the books and research I have done. She needs to find this on her own, if not she will deal with this in her next M, R or whereever she leads her life to.
