I just found e-mails when W and I were dating, and it just made me cry so much. I just can't figure out where it all went so wrong. It is just so sad.
D was so emotional about everything when they came home tonight. I felt so bad for her. She is having a hard time going back and forth.
W and I are having a hard time communicating, and it ends in a fight about child custody. How do I handle this properly and better than I have? It is just so hard. I have had huge feelings of loss today. She took all the pictures from the house, and I am just so sad because i did not get to choose the ones I wanted.
I am excited about my job, and it will be great with the kids in school to have something to occupy my time.
I hope I will do well for the company. I had to tell them that I had a kids medical appointment, so I could be there for S's first day of Kindergarten. I would not miss it for the world. It is too important to me. The company understood. I am so happy to be working with even low pay.
I like the boss and the people there too.
It is a very relaxed atmosphere to work in.
I am having a hard time sleeping.
Oh W I guess is not taking anything, so I have to move all this stuff. It is going to be difficult. I will sell somethings I guess. The bed I do not want because it brings back to many memories, and it will not fit in the new place. It is sad because it is a really nice bed.
I am just so sad, and I hope the pain will lessen over time.
I have to be strong, but I just have not felt very strong lately.
It has been a busy week, and I took some time off from here to just have my own thoughts for a couple of days. I just feel so bad for everyone here. There is so much sadness,and I could not handle to see that for a while.
ME-41 W-33 M-8 D-8 S-4 D 5/17/2010 www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1961097#Post1961097
I just can't figure out where it all went so wrong. It is just so sad.
Let me guess for you then: you settled into life, began to take each other for granted, little things like leaving your socks in the floor, where you put things (organization), personal habbits and so on become a source of contention. You criticised one another, resentment built, and men can usually tollerate quite a bit of this sort of thing (more future positive oriented often, so the focus isn't on present happiness) before the realize they're miserable, and women seem to tollerate being miserable a lot less.
In short, you both forgot to take time to enjoy things in the present? That's the most common scenario.
Sometimes, it's the other way around with time perspectives: the man can't keep a job, he's always playing video games and hanging out with his friends and always very much in the moment, and the woman wants to know she has a secure future, and it's her thinking of the future, and she doesn't see one.
In the end, it was either a miserable present or poor future prospects and a history of bickering (bad memories).
Am I close?
Yeah, we're all unique... just like everybody else.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I just can't figure out where it all went so wrong. It is just so sad.
Let me guess for you then: you settled into life, began to take each other for granted, little things like leaving your socks in the floor, where you put things (organization), personal habbits and so on become a source of contention. You criticised one another, resentment built, and men can usually tollerate quite a bit of this sort of thing (more future positive oriented often, so the focus isn't on present happiness) before the realize they're miserable, and women seem to tollerate being miserable a lot less.
In short, you both forgot to take time to enjoy things in the present? That's the most common scenario.
Sometimes, it's the other way around with time perspectives: the man can't keep a job, he's always playing video games and hanging out with his friends and always very much in the moment, and the woman wants to know she has a secure future, and it's her thinking of the future, and she doesn't see one.
In the end, it was either a miserable present or poor future prospects and a history of bickering (bad memories).
Am I close?
Yeah, we're all unique... just like everybody else.
Glad to hear it LSG! Congratulations. I know you will do well there and maybe you can earn a quick promotion now that you have your foot in the door!! Keep-up the good work.
I just can't figure out where it all went so wrong.
LSG,
This is an important thing to consider; you have to know the mistakes you've made in the past so you can avoid them. But you also can't dwell on the mistakes you've made in the past. It's like in football, a cornerback has to forget the last play; otherwise they'd get paralyzed.
Sometimes things just get sideways. Sometimes brakes fail on a car.
