I also don't read much into stats. I see them as simply "past results". There may be a predictability factor as far as outcomes but as far as my specific sitch, the stats mean nothing.
But, in reference to my sitch, I believe that what Steady is saying is correct and applicable.
Again, I need to be sure that I have the right motivation BEHIND the action.
The litmus test for me will be interacting with her in person.
If I can do that without emotional triggers, I am there.
But in the meantime I can do the research required to implement the divorce steps when I am ready.
Though it is a great statement, there won't be need to make the 'I won't live in an open marriage' statement. Been there.
And I'm not even sure I'll need a letting go anything either. Actions speak louder (and better) than words.
